In a world full of AI and social media it is hard to imagine what real life is really like. We tirelessly scroll comparing ourselves to perfect body after perfect body wishing away our cellulite and wrinkles until we have our own anxiety complex. We do not even see it coming, until it is there- our own demon has grown on our back. He lives there now, always whispering in our ear when we see people on the street who “look better than we do,” “they must have an eating disorder, you could look like that if you did xyz.”
We see ads constantly showing us “miracle cures” for all our biggest insecurities. A cream that will make your wrinkles go away, a single workout that will make cellulite disappear, and a pill that will make your fat melt away without changing anything. Deep down we know these things will not work but we are so desperate to keep up with what we see as real on social media that we MUST try them.
I speak from first-hand experience about these things as a middle-aged woman myself. It is hard accepting that our bodies change and yes, we age. We must accept that not everything we see on social media is real, there are apps to edit bodies, and filters and many of the people we compare ourselves to are just as insecure as we are. This creates a cycle of insecurity on social media.
The best thing we can do to battle that demon on our shoulder is create our own healthy habits. The very first step I would have to suggest is to continuously remind yourself that social media is not real life, and you should never compare your path to someone else's-it is a waste of energy. A good analogy I like to use to determine if something is worth my energy is the energy marbles method. Every day you are only allotted so many energy marbles. Each time you let something upset you that costs you energy marbles, and each time something makes you happy, you gain energy marbles – but remember you only have so many energy marbles each day, and when you are out you start the next day in the negative. With this method applied I just ask myself “is this really worth wasting an energy marble over,” and if the answer is no, I move on with my day without a second thought. Obviously, this will take some practice, but you get the idea.
After taking that step back and analyzing what you see versus what you are comparing yourself to there is also no shame in fixing things that really do bother you, like pesky fine lines, or those extra pounds that you need a little extra help with. Those are things you can do for you because you want them, and it will make you feel good about yourself again. Here at The Practice that is our goal, to help you reach your goals based on what will make you feel your best.
Charles Maddix is the Owner & CEO of The Practice. A private practice focused on the well-being of the individual as a whole, mind and body.
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